hiya, radiant being ✨
that’s us up there. Stephanie and J’Aime. in October 2023, i (Stephanie) told J’Aime about a download that came through my body while daydreaming about a better way to serve my online clients. J’Aime hopped on a plane with an expiring pre-pandemic plane voucher to Charles de Gaulle and BOOM! - the iNCOMING was born in the French countryside. this is our story.
we have known each other for a lifetime. it’s Stephanie 👋 and when J’Aime walked into my Pilates & GYROTONIC® studio in CA back in 2016 there was an instant friendship.
i remember J’Aime saying that sometimes it is difficult to make friends as an adult and how cool it was for our instant connexion. how much fun it was to work with this amazing girl, helping her to embody the beautiful concepts of bodymind movement to help improve her capoeira.
and how incredible to learn from her higher perspective and beautiful presence. she led me to intuitive readership and the celestial realms. so grateful. 🙏
that’s how it all began.
our connexion continued after i moved my life and studio to France in 2021, during the pandemic, in the middle of la campagne in France, isolated from my family, friends, immersed in a foreign country, in an unfamiliar language and medical and social system, pregnant for the first time.
at first, it seemed like paradise. the time difference with the US allowed for sleepy mornings; the fresh air and space in the garden gave me an appreciation for this spacious new timelessness; and when mon fils, Justin-Thilou came earthside, wow, i have never felt a love that instant and that deep.
and… i quickly realized i wasn’t in Kansas anymore.
among the amazement of a new baby, the instant connexion and the utter and complete joy, all of a sudden i also felt alone. utterly alone. the postpartum period was beyond difficult, my formerly free, performance body existing for what seemed purely this little life, and the relationship between my husband and i fractured. i didn’t even have a car!
navigating this period was in many ways traumatic.
i eventually realized that no one was going to get me outta this situation (that i also eventually realized i created!) but me. my outer world was tethering me to this space and time:
there was no where else to go but inward. so that’s what i did.
i moved my body in nourishing ways to rebuild my foundation, literally from my root up. walking in the fields of golden colza proved incredibly healing.
i untangled my energy from my partner’s, as difficult as that was - like uprooting an oak tree - because distance felt better than forced connexion.
i found solace in the changing seasons of the country, the trees and flowers and wind all spoke to me more clearly than ever.
and i found peace. not for a fleeting moment. but an embodied frequency that i could return to whenever life felt hard again. in fact, i began to choose the peace and calm that i was seeing reflected around me in la campagne.
my inner reality matched my outer reality, perhaps the most congruently ever in my life.
everything changed for me during those 5 years. i became present. i confronted my anxiety. i allowed my rage, frustration, anger and so many tears to pour through me.
i lived in a lot of discomfort. i wept to the moon when things felt too much. i felt the almost unbearable impulse to leave.
and yet, i stayed. because i realized this is my opportunity to become conscious. this is my opportunity to become -
the supermama i knew i was
the partner i wanted to see in my life
the creator of my own reality.
i went to France to have a baby and learn the language and in the midst of it all, i found myself.
and then, one day when my son was about 2 years old, and i was daydreaming about what to call the movement that i felt coming through my body intelligence - BOOM! the iNCOMING was born in one download. followed by an intuitive PING! to tell my dear friend, J’Aime all about it.
you know what she said when i called her tell her?
whatever you need sis.
what a gift to have a friend reflecting such unconditional love and support.
that’s the secret sauce of life, radiant beings.
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it’s J’Aime and in 2019, i found myself facing one of the toughest challenges of my life. Bandit, my loyal border collie, and i were living in my cozy apartment in LA when we received an eviction notice.
immediately i felt the FEAR emanating from my loved ones. i was bombarded with warnings about the dire consequences of eviction - how it would tarnish my record and make it nearly impossible to find another place to rent.
the pressure to give up and leave was palpable. but i couldn't ignore the sense of injustice burning within me -
why should I be forced out of my home for no valid reason?
as I grappled with the uncertainty of losing my home and potentially being separated from my beloved companion, i leaned into my developing intuitive abilities for solace and direction.
seeking answers, I turned to an intuitive reader.
this was her message:
this situation was attracted into my life as a reflection of my own self-treatment - a tangible manifestation of the internal self-criticism i harbored.
🤯 wow.
this profound realization revealed how i had essentially created a PHYSICAL bully to magnify the SELF-bully that was going on internally.
it compelled me to face my inner dialogue and take ownership for my role in my unfolding narrative. i made a deliberate choice to shed the self-destructive patterns that had hindered my growth and instead i embraced self-love, entering into a journey of healing and personal evolution.
a year later, i found myself with my beloved, Bandit, in court.
in that moment, i stood firm in my truth. i asserted that the reasons presented for my eviction had nothing to do with my dog, and i appeared in court to uphold the principles of truth and integrity that i deeply value.
and it might have helped that the judge might also believe in the truth.
i won.
this experience was a profound demonstration of ALCHEMY IN ACTION - the ability to effect change by transforming my inner landscape. i discovered the true beauty of resilience and the capacity to rise above adversity, guided by intuition and anchored in self-love.
this opening of deep awareness helped me further transform and reframe my life’s experience when i broke my foot in 2023 - directly before i traveled to France to help jumpstart the iNCOMING.
it happened so unexpectedly - i fainted, and when i came back, the damage was already done.
for weeks, i hoped my foot wasn’t actually broken, even though walking was nearly impossible. an x-ray eventually confirmed it was fractured in three places.
this diagnosis of "broken” compelled me to look inward, to confront and heal the internal brokenness mirrored in the physical expression of my foot.
i realized that what i needed most was to reconnect with myself. i delved into my inner wisdom to understand the deeper significance of this event.
✨ the universe revealed that this experience was about breaking through a gateway, processing energy to stabilize and ground myself.
❤️ it became an opportunity for me to invest more time in self-love and genuinely celebrate my own essence.
🪞i spent a lot of time reflecting, often in front of the mirror, exploring the different dimensions of my being, and this introspection
+ sped up my recovery
+ taught me how to walk again, both literally and metaphorically
+ showed me that i am able to move at a different pace giving myself space to regain my stride
+ and it led me to the Mirror, a gift i now share as a tool to co-creatorship.
it's been a long journey. i'm still mindful of my foot's fragility.
and… moving slowly and with intention enabled me to perceive more, to connect with the rhythms of nature, and to transition gracefully with its flow.
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and then, in the fall of 2023, after i shared the vision of the iNCOMING with J’Aime, divine timing coincided with a travel voucher that was about to expire to bring her to France. an aligned decision that amplified and clarified the vision that is our intuitive community, the iNCOMING by braiding our frequencies and intentions together, in the same time/space reality.
what started as a daydream of how to better serve my online clients, became a healing journey of expansion neither of us expected.
the universe works lovingly in beautiful ways, and when you open your awareness enough to receive, the mystery becomes creation.
our way at the iNCOMING is the way inward to expand outward. now it is time to share our experience with you.
welcome home, friend.
💖 in community, connexion and love, Stephanie & J’Aime